Holding hands… Whose hand is on top?

Recently, my daughter brought up something interesting. Holding hands with a guy. Not sure how she learned this, but some how she instinctively thought that a man’s hand should be on top and the woman’s hand goes under as they are walking. I hope I am explaining this properly. See photos. 

In the left photo, the girls hand is on top, the boy’s hand under. On the right photo, the boys hand is on top, the girls hand is under.

My daughter said that lately, guys always slip their hand under hers, which makes her feel like she is the dominant person in the relationship.  I told her in my generation, the man’s hand was always on top, he was the protector… at least that is how I have always known it to be.

For me, it would feel funny if a man went to hold my hand and slipped his hand under mine. This reminds me of “mother mode,” the mother always takes a child’s hand and pulls him/her along. A mother instinctively takes a child’s hand in hers, she is the protector.

So… WHAT DO YOU THINK? 

Is that hand on top meant to be the protector, the leader, the dominant person in the relationship, the breadwinner even? Does it matter?

 

6 thoughts on “Holding hands… Whose hand is on top?

  1. I’ve never thought about this either (kind of like which shoe you put on first) but now I’m going to notice every time I hold my wife’s hand. Will be an awkward moment if I’m inclined to reverse positions, won’t it?

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