Who is DATING out there? GREAT idea for you…

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Look what’s been coming to my Junk folder lately. A lot of these dating messages. Obviously, some spammer has my email. Without even opening the messages, I smiled. So, THIS is how it’s done.

Like writing a job resume, crafting an online dating message takes skill. I admit, I don’t have it. Years ago, I tried online dating. I’d last for about 2.5 weeks, realizing there were a lot of strange people out there and I had just wasted 3 months of money!!

The issue was with the profile. First, you need that GREAT photo. Even if it doesn’t look like you, it has to be great. When I say, “even if it doesn’t look like you,” I mean that it sometimes takes zillions of photos to get ONE winner. That winning photo, might not represent who you are on a daily basis; however, it doesn’t matter. For purposes of the profile, it’s a glamour shot. DONE!

Next the profile message. I was never good at this. That’s why I smiled at the dating emails coming to my Junk folder. My message to attract someone was boring. Basically, imagine fishing without any bait. That’s how my dating message was. If you fish without bait, it means you don’t really want a fish.

Now, if you REALLY want to catch the fish, you need good bait. These messages in my Junk folder made me smile. Such fake love messages, but they work! I admit, I was drawn to them. Take the one that says, “Are you ready for some magic and romance mixed together?” Who would say, “NO?”

So, I’m sharing this idea. If you are still dating and having trouble writing your profile. Draw writing inspiration from dating emails you find in your Junk folder.

Guaranteed — You’ll increase your online match results!! 

Marketing is marketing, even in the dating world.

26 thoughts on “Who is DATING out there? GREAT idea for you…”

  1. I wonder if some of these are being written with AI. That would not be a good fit on a date, unless you sued AI to plan the date and relationship. I notice a lot of contact requests from strange countries on my Skype profile too. People will do a lot of things for love….or money. Stay well. Allan

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    1. I had not thought about AI. A shame, because AI can be well written, we just wouldn’t know. Soon there is no need for human writers. I read a recent Blog, so well written… then I went to the About page, it said it was AI written, tell me what I thought. I couldn’t leave a msg, I was in shock. Our new life…

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  2. The common thought a decade ago was if you were out there living your life in the world, it is not difficult to meet anyone at all. Most people in my 30s age group actually met their loves in college or at work or various social events Meeting someone was not a problem at all.

    Fast forward 10 years and amidst rising levels of isolation and mental health issues amidst other societal challenges, it seems that no one knows how to socialise with other humans in person anymore. Everyone is connecting more on tech but missing out on real-life connections. The world is huge and your tribe is always out there. But if you are stuck just always using apps that give you mediocre experiences, it’s time to stop and explore other methods instead.

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    1. I’m with you on the rising levels of isolation, there’s data galore that hammers that in. But do you think it was easy or simple for folks to find anyone, let alone their true love, 10 or 20 or 30 years ago? Would books and tv shows like Sex and the City be such runaway successes if dating was simple in the merry 1990s when that show came out?

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      2. The truth is finding the right person for you is easier when you forget about looking, focus on being the kind of person you want to be and attracting a compatible person. That includes dealing with your past and going to therapy or counselling if you feel you want to. It can be helpful to discuss past relationships or other topics with a professional to ensure you’re ready for an emotional commitment.

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      3. Thanks. Luckily, I’m happy in life. Being with a partner does not mean a person is happy, I’ve been married, so I know both sides of the coin. It also does not mean a person needs therapy. Personally, I feel that we have a DESTINY and there is LUCK in meeting the right person. It’s either in our path or it is not. The same with people who want children and cannot have them. This doesn’t mean they need therapy, it just means it wasn’t in their destiny. I”m always amused with people who can brag they’ve been married 25+ years, but secretly, they would love change, but too afraid to do it because of what society would think, what parents/family think or they fear being alone. It takes courage to change our lives. Anyhow…I really meant this post to be on the humorous side of how hard it can be to date. Here’s to a FABULOUS 2024, pursuing dreams, goals and being HAPPY. Thanks for commenting.

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      4. That’s so true – destiny and luck play a huge part. If two people meet who are looking for the exact type of relationship at the same time in their lives, they’ll move mountains, drop as many superficial “criteria”, and sometimes even ignore more red flags than the Beijing Olympics to make it work. Thanks so much for the wonderful dialogue and thoughtful conversation. And thanks so much for the well wishes – Lots of love and hugs! Aiva 🙂 I wish you all the best in 2024, too!

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      6. I I didn’t watch Sex and the City Show, but I guess there were a few reasons why it was so popular and none of them included the dating part. There’s the beauty of female friendships. We watch the intricate conversations and caring moments between four unique women. Then there’s the fashion, obviously, as well as the fact that it was filmed in New York City.

        I didn’t start dating really until the very late 90’s / early 2000’s. It was extremely different. There was, in fact, no ‘dating’. Dating was what spoiled teens in US sitcoms did after they went to the mall. The stages were – fancying, ‘seeing someone’ (a murky phase involving actually TALKING to a boy) then ‘going out together’.

        You had to go out and meet people which meant your selection was much more limited but because the selection on the other side was also limited it usually meant people had much better chances across the board and people tended to stick out their relationships and marriages through more because there was no assurance of easily finding something else better.

        Nowadays, it’s probably more toxic. Between dating apps, social media, and the entertainment industry…our perceptions of how relationships work are completely ruined.

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      8. You are right, there are many themes to Sex and the City, and the beauty and power and strength of female friendships is probably at the top of the list. That’s not to say that there aren’t shows (How I Met Your Mother, for example) and books (The Rules, for example) galore on the topic from the last 5 decades.

        I’m not saying that there aren’t differences now, that toxicity isn’t rampant. What I’m saying is that as I delve more into the study of ancient history, it truly seems that the old saying about history repeating itself is spot on.

        Yes, the technology has changed. Yes, social media created speed of dissemination of information (of all kinds) that was unheard of… The messenger who ran the original marathon is a symbol of that, but the spread of rest stops along ancient Roman roads tells us how fast people tended to travel. And speed and volume are game changers, for sure. Question is, has it fundamentally changed who we are?

        So let me ask you this: if you could live at any time in history, when would that be and why?

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      9. Good question, I’m not sure the answer. I do think now is the best though, because women have freedom… Well, in America we do. It’s hard for me to imagine not being able to do what I want. I do enjoy times when we dressed better. How about YOU? If you could live anytime in history, when would that be and why? There are pros/cons at any time, aren’t there.

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      10. I agree with you,. The more history I study, the more convinced I am that despite all the cons we harp about (and many of them are real 🙃), now is the best time to be alive. Today’s cons seem to dwarf compared to those of any other time in our history?

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    2. Agree, COVID made things worse. People are almost “afraid” to talk to others. They much prefer to keep their head low on their mobile phones. I notice this at work too. So many emails on one subject when a quick phone call could resolve the issue. Well, it will be interesting to see where we are heading, right.

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    1. So true, it’s easy to be a creature of comfort. My mother goes to play bridge. There is a couple, 90 and 88, just got married. Life is interesting that way. You’d think, at that age, why get married, but they wanted to and even went on a cruise in South America for their honeymoon. I have another friend. She was married 45 years, celebrated this anniversary with a huge party. THEN within that year, asked husband for a divorce. She was 67, she was tired of his domineering ways. She had reconnected with her High School sweetheart. She wanted to live final years being happy. We each have our own journey, destiny, right.

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